Dating Online: For The Ugly?

Online dating has been called many things by many people, most of which run along the lines of "for the desperate", "for the ugly", "for sluts who could no longer find love in their hometown", "for the players" and et cetera. Basically, when people say they are dating online, a negative connotation comes along with it.

If you think about it, there is practically nothing wrong with dating online. It's just another form of long distance relationships. But then again, not a lot of the people are pro-long distance relationships.

I've heard so many say that people (guys and girls alike) who date online are either desperate or ugly (or anything negative in between). Whatever their basis was for having such a theory, I don't know. What we do know is that their theory has lived on years after they have gone, yet it still is unproven.

Not everyone who are in long distance relationships, or more famously know as "love online", are desperate. There could be a million reasons why they are in such a situation. It could be because the person they like just happened to live away from there or they moved. As I said, it could be because of anything. We shouldn't stick with the negative connotations. Instead, let us look at the positive side of these relationships.

There has been too much negative vibes already. Once, I remember seeing a comment that said "I date online because I look so much better in pictures." At first, I honestly had to laugh. It wasn't because I believed in that comment, but because I couldn't help imagining the looks of a person who would say such. I may not be that good looking, but I ain't that bad looking to be bold enough and utter those words. *insert evil laugh*

Anyway, dating online is becoming common nowadays. It's the modern form of dating, so they say but it does not and cannot replace the bond couples form when seeing face to face. However, it's an alternative that actually works. Say for example your significant other is working overseas, you can't just leave them because they're no longer around and you see less and less of them, right? The love is definitely still going to be there, what you need to do is to nurture it. That's where long distance relationship advice come in.

Love is a many splendored thing. It is something that we should not expect to come. It just happens. So when you happen to meet the love of your life online, don't consider yourself as someone ugly and desperate. Consider yourself lucky because with the help of technology, you find that one person who could make you smile and gives you more reasons to keep on smiling.

That Permanent First Time High

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Isn't it amazing to get that special something and/or a surprise from your special someone? After all, these surprises keep the relationship interesting.

Imagine getting cute and sweet surprises from him/her. Wouldn't it make you fall in love with them over and over again? I know couples with long distances between them will feel their hearts flutter everytime this happens. It's probably one of the advantages of being in a long distance relationship - you get the permanent first time high. Want to know how it feels? Try getting in one. ;)

By the way, the song above is from the Long Distance Boyfriend. It's his song for his Long Distance Girlfriend. :)

Going The Distance, Literally

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Going The Distance, Literally

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There are times wherein our minds have that pre-determined opinion as to which side of the coin we prefer - heads or tails. If we talk about life in general, it's either we approve or disapprove of one thing. For instance, in long distance relationships, we can either be for or against it.

Most people are probably against such a relationship due to the lack of face to face interaction. But I say, so what? So what if you don't see each other as much as the other couples do? That doesn't make your relationship less real. Moreover, it doesn't make your relationship fake at all. There are a lot of short distance relationships that are considerably less real than those long distance relationship ones, anyway. It's not the distance that counts, it's the efforts of both people involved.

I know some people blame it on the lack of distance and "face time" that cause long distance relationships to end sooner than later. However, should it be that low of a reason? Problems are not hard to get by. We've all got friends, and somehow, maybe they can help us. All of us have problems. It would be a surprise if we won't encounter any problem every single day of our lives. All it takes to solve these things would be to talk things through.

Talking about problems, I remember the situation my friends Oliver and Amanda were in. When we were in college, they lived close - Amanda being in a dormitory near the school and Oliver lived with his relatives. But when we graduated, Amanda had to go back to her hometown, thus putting them in a long distance relationship. All was well until they broke up because of the distance. We thought that they were never going to get back together. Surprise, surprise.

The valiant thing that Oliver did, after he heard some questions, advices and a couple of what-ifs from our friends, was to go all the way to Amanda's hometown. He went to her mother's office and asked for forgiveness then proceeded to go to Amanda's house. Amanda was surprised to see Oliver. She hadn't taken a shower or made herself look pretty but Oliver didn't care. Making a long story short, they got back together. It was amazing for us to  hear about what Oliver did because they lived miles apart already. But he didn't mind the distance just as long as he could get her back. And he did.

Never let the distance ruin your relationship, especially if you feel that he or she is already the one.

Her Long Distance Boyfriend's Reply

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Her Long Distance Boyfriend's Reply

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Listening to the song "Nothing's Gonna Stop Us Now" made me look for the reply of the long distance boyfriend to his beloved girlfriend. If you remembered, I posted a lengthy but heartfelt letter from a girl towards her boyfriend last week. This time, I've got the guy's reply. It's a bit shorter but we all know guys don't really fall into the same emotional level as girls. *wink wink*

 

My dearest long distance girlfriend,

 

We may be miles apart for now, I know it's kind of difficult for us to communicate. But it doesn't mean that I don't think of you. I think about you everyday - when I wake up, when I'm at work, and even when I go to sleep. My day would not be complete without having even a short conversation with you.

The distance between us is not an obstacle for our love to blossom. Although there may be times that you get jealous of the people I hang out with (especially the girls haha), there's nothing to be jealous of, my dear. Because no matter what and/or whoever I am with, you're always in my heart. My eyes are only for you, and my thoughts are always with you. No one else can replace you here in my heart. I know we'll be together someday, just wait, my dear. The dust will finally settle.

Distance means so little because you mean so much to me. I love you, babe. I always will. :)

 

Love,

Your long distance boyfriend

 

P.S. I wrote a song for you. I was supposed to hand it to you when you were in the neighborhood but we didn't get the chance to be together. I really hope you like it. I love you!

 

How do you break the hands of time?

'Cause girl I want to stay this way

Forever, to hold your hand forever

Where can I get a remote control

That pauses everything that I want to

Freeze, can someone tell me please?

 

Whoa, oh girrl I'm not that strong

Whoa, I need you to sing along

Whoa, I can't build forever alone,

That's why I need you

 

CHORUS

I just don't love you like I did before

'Cause everyday it grows and it won't

Come back to how it was

And every minute I just love you more

And I'm sorry girl 'cause I will stay this

way forevermore

 

And now I think that I forgot how it

Feels to be not so in love

'Cause I'm so in love with you

If beauty was a drop of water,

Yours must be the largest ever known,

The largest ocean ever known

 

Whoa, oh girl I'm not that strong

Whoa, I need you to sing along

Whoa, I can't build forever alone,

That's why I need you

 

CHORUS

I just don't love you like I did before

'Cause everyday it grows and it won't

Come back to how it was

And every minute I just love you more

And I'm sorry girl 'cause I will stay this

Way forevermore

 

I can hug a million people

But it wouldn't mean as much as just

Holding the tip of your hold

A thousand people could tell me that

They love me so

But it could never be as meaningdul as

Your own words

 

I just don't love you like I did before

'Cause everyday it grows and it won't

Come back to how it was

And every minute I just love you more

And I'm sorry girl 'cause I will stay this

Way forevermore

 

P.P.S. I love you more and more.

 

 

The Distance Between Us

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The Distance Between Us

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The Distance Between Us

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Relationships are not always smooth sailing. Sometimes, we travel on a dirt road trying to dodge all the bumps we meet along the way. Problems are nothing new when we get into a relationship. Although sometimes viewed negatively, these problems actually make the relationship healthy in the sense that you get to understand how the other's mind works.

In the song above, the couple aren't exactly apart but it just feels that way because they have problems. Problems are challenges to relationships, especially when you are in a long distance relationship. However, you need not worry since long distance relationship advice are readily available if you just know where to look.

 

The Distance Between Us

[[posterous-content:pid___0]]Relationships are not always smooth sailing. Sometimes, we travel on a dirt road trying to dodge all the bumps we meet along the way. Problems are nothing new when we get into a relationship. Although sometimes viewed negatively, these problems actually make the relationship healthy in the sense that you get to understand how the other's mind works.

In the song above, the couple aren't exactly apart but it just feels that way because they have problems. Problems are challenges to relationships, especially when you are in a long distance relationship. However, you need not worry since long distance relationship advice are readily available if you just know where to look.

 

Long Distance REAL-ationships vs RELAY-tionships

When you get into a long distance relationship (or LDR), you should have fully understood the mechanics of playing this so called game of love. In this game, you have to understand that time is of the essence and that communication is key.

In LDRs, you also play a mini game called the waiting game . It's a waiting game in the sense that you both may end up waiting for one another due to the time constraint. Because of this little fact, some couples eventually decide to break up. While some see this as a hindrance, other couples see this as a challenge to prove their love to one another.

Long Distance Love, as some prefer to call it, seem so unreal to most people. But to the people involved, it is as real as it gets. LDRs can work and have a fairytale-like ending if the couple in the relationship try their best to make it work for both of them. It's all about doubling the work that you would normally do for a short distance relationship. With the distance, don't expect to just let the love you have for the other to be the main reason for your relationship to last. Both of you should work it out.

If, in case, one or the other is busy, you should set a time for you guys to catch up. Don't let your relationship become a relay. As much as possible, find time for one another. Don't be one of those couples who seem to be in a relay game, passing batons back and forth without really spending time with each other.

Getting in a long distance relationship is not a problem. The way people see it, it's maintaining the relationship that's quite messy. Communication is the key. Listen to the long distance relationship advice that people who have been in a similar situation will give you. It helps a lot.

 

The Upside in LDRs

When we hear people who are in long distance relationships gush about their relationship, you could catch a hint of spite and happiness. Spite since they are advice, learn to open your mind to the possibilities.

A Letter To Her Long Distance Boyfriend

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Each one of us who get into relationships get hurt at one point in time. It may either be because we were hurt by the one we love or we hurt ourselves in the process of loving. Nobody said that it is easy. Relationships are bittersweet, most especially the long distance ones. Below is a letter from a girl to her boyfriend.

Dear Long Distance Boyfriend,

I know it's getting a little kind of difficult for us to communicate at times because you're getting busy and I'm getting busy, but it's alright. To me, it's alright. I don't mind waiting for your free time because I understand what your work entails, as you're working with people. Since I am dealing with people in my line of work, I totally appreciate the short conversations and small talks we have every time that we get the chance. It's those little things that make me happy. You don't need to be always right by my side to put a smile on my face because the little things you do are enough.

People may think I am a hypocrite in saying that being chosen second to work is fine with me, but it really is. I know you're trying your best to save up for whatever the future will hold (hopefully for us), and I totally understand. I'm not usually a patient person but I am surprised that I can stand waiting for your name to pop up on Yahoo!Messenger so we could chat. My friends used to say that I am a kind of person who is afraid of commitment, that is a fact. Well, I used to, anyway. But as of now, I find myself doing things I said I will never do - like fall for a person who lives miles away from me. I was as surprised as they were when these things started becoming "ok" to me. I never expected this at all.

We've talked it over so many times, that we should trust each other. However, there are times wherein I just can't help myself from being a little jealous of the people - specifically the girls - that you hang out with. You know why I get jealous of them (because I can't be with you all the time, just like they do). But even when my mind seems to play tricks on me the whole time we have started being together, I block them out and listen to what my heart says. And it says, go for it.

I never was the risk taker, I don't know if you know that. I was also the biggest skeptic of long distance relationships. But here I am, and this is where we are - in one. Although I have now taken the risk of being really hurt emotionally, I look at the bright side. Maybe we could work. Maybe we can make this work. I know when we had that chat last night, I sort of lost my cool. I just really missed you. You've tapped the sweet girl inside of me, thats one side of me that no one (except you) has never seen.

I understand you got a little bit sad when I sent you that message saying you took so long. I got your point that maybe this was bugging me already, but it's not. I don't want to give up on this just yet. Not that easily, anyway. Yes, it's surely going to be an uphill battle, but we'll make them see that we can make it to the top. We'll write our own fairytale, with a happy ending that works in real life.

People can say what they want to say about our relationship, I don't care. All I know is that we do care about each other, even when we are currently apart. I hope you can hold on to this. I hope I, myself, can hold on to this. Thank you for the love. You make me happy each day. I loved you then, I just love you more and more each day. I can't say these three words enough. So here's an I LOVE YOU again and again.

Love,

Your Long Distance Girlfriend

 

P.S. Redeem your power hug and super kiss by carrying this letter when we meet.

P.P.S. I already miss you.

Online Love

What is your idea of a relationship? Let me guess. It's something that has got to do with 10% laughter, 25% hugs, 30% kisses and 35% intimacy. I am most likely right, or aren't I?

Many of us believe that love exists although in the back of our minds, we doubt it. When can you say you're in love then? That real "cannot live without yhe other" thing and not just the really liking a person sort? I think try long distance relationship advice. They may not be specifically patterned around your relationship, but you get the idea.

Online love can be as real as the short distance ones. The only difference being the distance, which shouldn't matter really, if you're so sure you both feel the same way. Rules have some exceptions. So can love. It may even be you.