The Better Long Distance Relationship?

Most of us may have already heard of long distance relationships. Although many of us may not be tolerant of such a relationship. we all have the general knowledge that this relationship talks about distance and requires a lot of patience from both parties. People tend to focus too much on the presence of that gap between the two people that they forget to look at how these two people are trying to make the relationship work.

The way I see it, though, there are two subtypes of long distance relationships: one, the couple have known each other for some time and decided to be a couple only to have one (or both of them) relocate due to work (or whatever); or two, the couple have never met yet but are sure that they are in love. To the old people, the latter may sound a bit foolish, maybe it is. But who are we to judge?

Let us weigh both subtypes carefully, starting with the first subtype. In this kind of long distance relationship, it seems like you already know a lot about each other. The only real challenge now is to get used to the idea that you two are now going to be apart. I see it as a short distance relationship which suddenly got shifted to a long distance one. Like many people in short distance relationships (or people in general), these couples have to completely accept within themselves that they now have to deal with the distance. The hope of adjusting well with the new setup should be accepted for this relationship to be maintained. If that doesn't happen, then that's too bad.

As for the second subtype, there is practically no new change. Except that you are now in a relationship with your computer or your cell phone more or less. After all, you are going to spend a considerable amount of time using these gadgets for you and your partner to communicate. The obstacle in this subtype is to get past your doubts whether or not he or she truly is in love with you. You both have to build that trust so that your relationship will be a success. You have to believe in yourselves. Believe that you know what you are doing and that what you are doing is right.

Even if there are two subtypes, long distance relationships in general would require the couples to have tons and tons of patience. Because if one of them didn't, the relationship will start breaking down. Once this ensues, there's no stopping it. A break in the continuity of a relationship is like trying to stop sinking in quicksand; the more you fidget and fight, the deeper you sink. What I would most probably suggest is that couples get long distance relationship advice as early as the start of the relationship. You know, just so they feel secure. Careful who you listen to, though, because some people pretend to help you out when they really want to see you down on your knees.